10 GOOD SIGNS THAT MR.LOVER BOY IS CHEATING ON YOU

1 He’s suddenly unavailable
Some signs of shifty behaviour are quite obvious,
according to Beverley Stone, author of Stay Or
Leave? Six Steps To Resolving Your Relationship
Indecision. “Maybe your partner said he’d be
near his phone and then runs out of battery, or
perhaps he’s told you he’s at work and his
flustered colleague tells you he’s just popped
out for a sandwich. Follow your instincts if
there’s something going on, so don’t become a
doormat – confront him now.”
2 You’re not having sex
Treat lack of boudoir action as a big, flashing
warning that something’s not right. “It’s a
major sign that he’s having sex elsewhere,” says
Stone. “Even if they’re not, it’s something you
need to sort out. Tell him you need to see a sex
therapist. That will scare most men! Have an
honest discussion about what’s going on, and how
you can make time for a romantic evening and
sex.”
3 He’s behaving suspiciously on the phone
So your boyfriend’s walking out of the room to
take calls, and has suddenly started to lock his
phone? Deal with it directly. “I know it’s
common to look through a man’s phone rather
than raise the issue, but try to avoid doing it,”
says Stone. “Rather than become suspicious and
untrustworthy like him, sit him down and ask
what’s going on. When he answers, concentrate
not on what he’s saying, but how he says it. Tell-
tale signs include fidgety body language and
hesitation.”
4 He’s a green-eyed monster
Is your boyfriend suddenly getting well jell and
questioning what you’re up to? “If a man
becomes suspicious of your behaviour and accuses
you of cheating, he could be projecting his lack
of trustworthiness onto you,” says Stone. “Don’t
stand for it, as it can damage your self image.
Tell him you know the game he’s playing, and
you refuse to play it too!”
5 He’s met new mates
Of course, not all new friends spell danger. But,
as The Dating Doctor, Peter Spalton, explains,
it’s how much he tells you about them that
counts. “Watch how he talks about them – if he’s
being furtive and starts going out with someone
you don’t know much about, and don’t get
introduced to, it could spell trouble.”
6 The opportunity is there
“It’s not actually that easy to cheat,” says
Spalton. “You need the window of opportunity.
So if he’s meeting someone for sex, it’s easier if
he can stay out overnight. But if he’s going out
for dinner with another woman, he can tell you
it’s a night out with the boys. Watch for changes
in his behaviour.”
7 He hides his post
Cheating costs money, whether it’s paying for
dinner or a night in a hotel. And with all the
extra spending comes evidence that there’s
something going on. “A cheater might hide his
credit card bill, or stop having his calls itemised
on his phone bill,” says Spalton. “But if you get
the chance to look at the evidence, you’ll be
able to tell exactly what kind of affair is going
on – and how serious it is.”
8 Neither of you are happy
The motivation to cheat comes if you’re not
satisfied with your relationship. That could
mean both of you. “If you really think your
boyfriend is cheating, ask yourself if you’re
really happy anyway?” says Spalton. “One
partner cheating means there’s something
wrong, and if you want to save it you both need
to be honest and fix it.”
9 He explains too much
“Often a cheater will give an explanation for
something and go into a lot of detail to try and
convince you. It may even sound as if it’s been
rehearsed – probably because it has! Think
carefully before you just let his lies go without
questioning them as it takes two to lie: one
person to tell the lie, the other to accept it,”
says Spalton.
10 Your gut instinct tells you he’s a cheater
Everyone has a sixth sense. And behavioural
change specialist and author of More Than Men
And Make-Up and Authentic Catalyst Seven
Suphi believes you should never ignore it. “People
who are being cheated on nearly always know in
their heart of hearts what’s going on, but just
didn’t want to face it,” she says. So how do you
tap into your sixth sense? Suphi has a technique
for this. “Think of a time, like at the end of a
yoga class, when you’re really relaxed, empty
your mind and get into that state. Now ask
yourself ‘Is he cheating on me?’ Take the first
answer that springs to mind.” But what if the
answer’s yes? Move on, says Suphi. “Those who
get cheated on are trusting, sometimes naïve
and open to love, so although you feel
devastated now you will find the right guy in
the end.”

source:really.uktv.co.uk