LADIES,10 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO ON YOUR FIRST DATE

1 ) Don 't take your friends along when he invites
you on a date: Some Nigerian Ladies for some
reason that is beyond me , take their friends on
a date with a guy they just met . I can attest to
this because it has happened to me before. No
positive outcome can come out of this but some
of the negatives are :
( i) The guy will be turned off
( ii ) He may start liking or prefer one for your
friends to you
( iii ) He will never get the opportunity to know
you as much as he wants because of the 3 rd
wheel
( iv ) He may think you don't have a mind of your
own
( v) He may turn you and your friends back


( 2 ) Don 't go to his house unannounced : One
thing a man hates the most is for you to show up
at his house unannounced or invited especially
when he just met you . That 's a "NO NO " because
he 'll just think you 're a stalker or a psycho and
he 'll act out . . Some ladies out of emotions and
lack of trust show up at a guys house , what they
don' t know is they are pushing him away or
giving him reasons to leave .


( 3 ) Don 't ask him for Money: Some Ladies meet
a guy and in less than 2 / 3 weeks the demands
start rolling in . Please pay for my hair, buy me
birkin bag for my birthday , my rent is due , or
plain & simply , I need 500k or 1 million. Every
guy would take off when they meet a Lady like
this . They would say she 's opportunistic and
compare her to the ladies who are not asking
them for a kobo or dime .


( 4 ) Don 't compare him to your ex or talk about
your ex, only if he requests : Some Ladies
compare and contrast their new guy to their old
one, not only in their mind but to his face as
well . They say things like my Ladi used to take
me to KFC you ' re taking me to Mr Biggs, Jide
bought me Prada for my birthday last year
you ' re buying me Zara .. Guys hate being
compared , it punctures their Ego so allow him be
the Boss and take you out , don't compare or
dictate terms of dates or gifts .


( 5 ) Don 't be to quick to upload his pictures on
Instagram , Facebook, Twitter ( Social Media) :
Ladies, you just met a guy , a new flame , the
relationship is at its early stages, there's still so
much you don' t know about him why upload his
pictures for the world to see ? The relationship
may not even be defined yet. . By doing this ,
you ' re giving people room to influence and alter
your infant relationship . Also you don' t want to
be like those people who have to cleanse their
instagram and Facebook pages of a guys picture
every 6 months because of a breakup .


( 6 ) Don 't wear see through or exposing outfits on
your first date: Guys are very Impulsive and
instinctive by nature , by wearing a dress or gown
that ' s says "SEX " that 's all that will be on his
mind and nothing else . He won 't want to hear
anything about you anymore ; your personality,
your job , your family etc. All he ' ll be thinking
about is how he 'll take you to his house or hotel
room because you 've sent him a signal saying you
want sex .


( 7 ) Don 't bore him with your Family issues: Some
ladies carry their personal or family problems
out with them on dates , instead of making
waves and progress with their new guy , they talk
about how their house got burnt last week, or
how their friend always borrows money or clothes
from them , or how they hate their sisters or
brothers. . All these are TMI ( Too Much
Information) Focus on him and let him Focus on
you . . Don 't allow extraneous variables creep in
and take over your conversation.


( 8 ) Don 't talk about marriage or the future : The
number one thing guys are scared of after God
is Commitment or Marriage so if you just met a
guy and you ' re already talking about marriage
or children he is definitely going to take off
and say you 're putting him under pressure and
he can 't keep up. . Let him be the one to bring it
up not you because he ' ll say you 're desperate.


( 9 ) Don 't pry about his pocket, earnings or the
car he drives : A friend of mine went on a Blind
Date at Radisson ( Lagos ) to meet a Lady who his
cousin had introduced him to through
Instagram . He complained he had not even
ordered a drink when his date asked him: What
car do you drive ? That was her first question..
"What do you drive ?" Most guys would be
offended by this and even have a negative
impression about you immediately, because a guy
would wonder do u like me or my car?



( 10 ) Don' t get drunk on your first outing with
him : Firstly Ladies, this is for your own safety a
lot of ladies have been taken advantage of
because they were intoxicated . You also don't
want to embarrass yourself and say or do things
that you can 't defend or verify .
Summary:
Psychologist are of the opinion that First
Impression carries 80 % of any encounter and
that after an impression is made it is very
difficult to adjust Cognitive views and
Perceptions about that subject. . Ladies don' t
allow extraneous variables such as friends ,
impulses , needs , emotions, competition , social
media , family pressure control your First
Impression .